5 Ways to Conduct Yourself with Social Grace at a Banquet #allergies, #foodallergies #etiquette #nickelychallenged #BeingaLady #BeingaGentleman

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My inspiration came from Arts for Aids, an event I attended this weekend. Even though, I knew how to prepare myself, food wise for this event. It has taken me a while to conduct my allergies with social grace at a banquet or an event. So, here are some things that I found that were helpful.

1. Access the Situation 
Make sure you know, if the banquet/ event is a sit in or buffet style dinner. This will make it easier to address how you should handle your food. If it is sit in you might need to talk to the catering company but if it’s buffet style you can just bring your food and eat it when people are eating it.

Also, if you won’t be eating and you are paying for the banquet you might want to negotiate your price since you will not be eating their food.

2. Eat before the banquet
If the situation doesn’t permit you to bring your own food. Then it would help if you ate before the banquet. So, you are very full,  when you watch people eat because it is very hard to be happy and social when you are hungry. 

3. Make friends with the catering company
So, if the banquet/event permits you to bring your food. Let the caterer bring your food with the other food. It is less awkward and more social appropriate than you just putting food on the table from your bag.

4. Don’t “be” the small talk 
After, people see you aren’t eating the food everyone else is eating they might wander and sometimes you might be the small talk. This makes it extremely awkward and rude if your allergy is the topic of discussion.

Also, I have notice that people who know about your allergy are quick to tell others about it, when they ask. Please inform them that you need to explain yourself not them explaining it for you. So there is no confusion and also you want to stir the conversation to a positive direction. By telling people that they can talk about any restaurants they like to eat without offending you.

5. Enjoy yourself 
Lastly, please enjoy yourself. It is only a couple hours and also be around people who understand.

Till next time,

Stay well fed and entertained

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73 thoughts on “5 Ways to Conduct Your Allergies with Social Grace at a Banquet

    1. Nickely Challenged

      Aww, I can relate with her. I hope she is big enough to understand her allergy. But yeah, it is a long road for us and there is nothing out there to guide us on how to handle our food allergies properly because it affects us socially.

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  1. Stephanie

    What great advice. As someone who only deals with seasonal allergies on a small scale, it’s nice to know there are ways that folks with more serious allergies can live a perfectly normal life with just a few extra steps/thoughts.

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    1. Nickely Challenged

      I don’t think the people are intentionally doing that, it is just people have more questions and then they become the main conversations. That is why I stated that people with allergies have to be more mindful, when they talk about allergies. Thanks for you opinion.

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  2. Jenn @ hellorigby!

    Great tips – I have a friend who has identified some food sensitivities and cannot partake socially anymore. I always try to be thoughtful and not make her feel uncomfortable, but it definitely can be hard to remember that certain ingredients are in almost everything!

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    1. Nickely Challenged

      Aww! I appreciate your the sensitivity you have for your friend. Most people cannot handle food allergies when someone close to them has it. Keep up the good work. You are doing more than you can imagine for her. Thanks for your opinion.

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  3. Amby Felix

    This is great! I have food allergies and it is really difficult for me to cope with sometimes because I am a restaurant cook. So whether I am behind the scenes cooking FOR a banquet or I’m a diner AT one, it can be a bit of a task sometimes. Great information.

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    1. Nickely Challenged

      Wow! I am so sorry about that. Did you become a restaurant cook before you were diagnosed with food allergies? Sometimes I don’t eat with others at work because I know I won’t have enough self control. But kudos to you for being in the for front of the cooking and still maintain some self control. Thanks for your opinion.

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  4. Trish

    I think those are excellent tips. I don’t have allergies, but I think there are times when we’re all in situations at some point where we might have some kind of food restriction and it’s good to know how to handle it gracefully.

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  5. Raewyn

    I can’t imagine how difficult it is to be allergic to something that is so common. I’m allergic to berries and pineapples and even that is difficult! Thank you for sharing this 🙂

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