10 Curse Words not to Say to an Allergic Foodie #foodallergies #foodallergy #food #allergydiet #specialdiet ‪#‎nickelallergy‬ ‪#‎glutenallergy‬ ‪#‎cornallergy‬ ‪#‎peanutallergy‬ ‪#‎nutallergy‬ ‪#‎treenutallergy‬ ‪#‎soyallergy‬ ‪#‎wheatallergy‬ ‪#‎milkallergy‬ ‪#‎seedallergy‬ ‪#‎sesameallergy‬ ‪#‎allergy‬ ‪#‎allergic‬ ‬ ‪#‎lactoseintolerance‬

I was made aware by Christy Cushing that May 10-16, 2015 is Allergy Awareness Week, and how else would I want to celebrate it, but with some sarcasm of course. As you all know, when you have a food allergy you become a custom to the insensitivity of people’s words. It is especially awkward when confronting the non-allergic person;  you never know what can come out of their mouth. That is when you become immune to “said” words. But today, I have had enough. It is time, that these common folks know how to treat an allergic foodie with respect. So this continues the Allergy Etiquette Series, 10 Curse Words not to Say to an Allergic Foodie. I am not talking to the allergic people, I am talking to everyone else.


 Are you guys reading this like I am shouting through the screen? I know I am.


 I was talking to Miss Diagnoses a while back about annoyances that we both could relate to, and can I tell you the conversation took an hour. I guess we just needed to let it out on someone who understands. So, I have been meaning to write this post for a while now but as my OCD (not diagnosed) goes, things need to go in order. I believe that all of these offenses may or may not be somewhere else, but for future reference I am not the only one who has spoken out: Mom.me, Healthline, The Stir, Glutey Girl in the Tron, and even Buzz Feed.

1. OMG! That Sucks!

@nichallenged How someone responses to your food allergy: OMG! That sucks! #foodallergies #foodallergy #food #allergydiet #specialdiet ‪#‎nickelallergy‬ ‪#‎glutenallergy‬ ‪#‎cornallergy‬ ‪#‎peanutallergy‬ ‪#‎nutallergy‬ ‪#‎treenutallergy‬ ‪#‎soyallergy‬ ‪#‎wheatallergy‬ ‪#‎milkallergy‬ ‪#‎seedallergy‬ ‪#‎sesameallergy‬ ‪#‎allergy‬ ‪#‎allergic‬ ‬ ‪#‎lactoseintolerance‬

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Clearly, I know how it feels like. I live with this everyday. Your statement wasn't necessary.

2. But it has so many nutrients?

@nichallenged How someone responses to your food allergy: But it has so much nutrients #foodallergies #foodallergy #food #allergydiet #specialdiet ‪#‎nickelallergy‬ ‪#‎glutenallergy‬ ‪#‎cornallergy‬ ‪#‎peanutallergy‬ ‪#‎nutallergy‬ ‪#‎treenutallergy‬ ‪#‎soyallergy‬ ‪#‎wheatallergy‬ ‪#‎milkallergy‬ ‪#‎seedallergy‬ ‪#‎sesameallergy‬ ‪#‎allergy‬ ‪#‎allergic‬ ‬ ‪#‎lactoseintolerance‬

 

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My roommate always says this to me when I say "I am allergic." Yeah! Nutrients that can kill me. 

3. Oh! I thought I had it bad?

@nichallenged How someone responses to your food allergy: Oh! I thought I had it bad #foodallergies #foodallergy #food #allergydiet #specialdiet ‪#‎nickelallergy‬ ‪#‎glutenallergy‬ ‪#‎cornallergy‬ ‪#‎peanutallergy‬ ‪#‎nutallergy‬ ‪#‎treenutallergy‬ ‪#‎soyallergy‬ ‪#‎wheatallergy‬ ‪#‎milkallergy‬ ‪#‎seedallergy‬ ‪#‎sesameallergy‬ ‪#‎allergy‬ ‪#‎allergic‬ ‬ ‪#‎lactoseintolerance‬

 

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Apparently not, would you like a cookie?

4. There’s ought to be something that you can eat at the *insert place, function, event, etc*?

@nichallenged How someone responses to your food allergy: There's ought to be something that you can eat at the *insert place, function, event, etc* #foodallergies #foodallergy #food #allergydiet #specialdiet ‪#‎nickelallergy‬ ‪#‎glutenallergy‬ ‪#‎cornallergy‬ ‪#‎peanutallergy‬ ‪#‎nutallergy‬ ‪#‎treenutallergy‬ ‪#‎soyallergy‬ ‪#‎wheatallergy‬ ‪#‎milkallergy‬ ‪#‎seedallergy‬ ‪#‎sesameallergy‬ ‪#‎allergy‬ ‪#‎allergic‬ ‬ ‪#‎lactoseintolerance‬

 

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If only I could say this with such emphasis.

5. So I thought you wouldn’t like it if I invited you, cause you would be watching us eat, so I just didn’t

@nichallenged How someone responses to your food allergy: So I thought you wouldn't like it if I invited you, so I just didn't #foodallergies #foodallergy #food #allergydiet #specialdiet ‪#‎nickelallergy‬ ‪#‎glutenallergy‬ ‪#‎cornallergy‬ ‪#‎peanutallergy‬ ‪#‎nutallergy‬ ‪#‎treenutallergy‬ ‪#‎soyallergy‬ ‪#‎wheatallergy‬ ‪#‎milkallergy‬ ‪#‎seedallergy‬ ‪#‎sesameallergy‬ ‪#‎allergy‬ ‪#‎allergic‬ ‬ ‪#‎lactoseintolerance‬


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Verbatim what my ex told me when I visited him for Thanksgiving, back when we were together. Guess who was having dinner with the wall that evening?

6. If I had a food allergy, I would die

@nichallenged How someone responses to your food allergy: If I had a food allergy I would die #foodallergies #foodallergy #food #allergydiet #specialdiet ‪#‎nickelallergy‬ ‪#‎glutenallergy‬ ‪#‎cornallergy‬ ‪#‎peanutallergy‬ ‪#‎nutallergy‬ ‪#‎treenutallergy‬ ‪#‎soyallergy‬ ‪#‎wheatallergy‬ ‪#‎milkallergy‬ ‪#‎seedallergy‬ ‪#‎sesameallergy‬ ‪#‎allergy‬ ‪#‎allergic‬ ‬ ‪#‎lactoseintolerance‬

 

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And if I keep listening to your ignorance, I will die.

7. Do you want to eat this? *insert allergic food*

@nichallenged How someone responses to your food allergy: Do you want to eat this? #foodallergies #foodallergy #food #allergydiet #specialdiet ‪#‎nickelallergy‬ ‪#‎glutenallergy‬ ‪#‎cornallergy‬ ‪#‎peanutallergy‬ ‪#‎nutallergy‬ ‪#‎treenutallergy‬ ‪#‎soyallergy‬ ‪#‎wheatallergy‬ ‪#‎milkallergy‬ ‪#‎seedallergy‬ ‪#‎sesameallergy‬ ‪#‎allergy‬ ‪#‎allergic‬ ‬ ‪#‎lactoseintolerance‬

 

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I swear it's a conspiracy, they are testing me. They want me to crack.

8. Why can’t you just cheat on your food allergy diet, just this once?

@nichallenged How someone responses to your food allergy: Why can't you just cheat on your food allergy diet, just this once? #foodallergies #foodallergy #food #allergydiet #specialdiet ‪#‎nickelallergy‬ ‪#‎glutenallergy‬ ‪#‎cornallergy‬ ‪#‎peanutallergy‬ ‪#‎nutallergy‬ ‪#‎treenutallergy‬ ‪#‎soyallergy‬ ‪#‎wheatallergy‬ ‪#‎milkallergy‬ ‪#‎seedallergy‬ ‪#‎sesameallergy‬ ‪#‎allergy‬ ‪#‎allergic‬ ‬ ‪#‎lactoseintolerance‬

 

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No! Cause my death is my choice. But in all seriousness, when I cheat I have calculated how many sick days I need, when I need to detox and if I have had a lot of nickel that day. So can we stop pretending to be an expert of my body.

9. Do you ever wish you didn’t have this allergy?

@nichallenged How someone responses to your food allergy: Do you ever wish you didn't have this allergy? #foodallergies #foodallergy #food #allergydiet #specialdiet ‪#‎nickelallergy‬ ‪#‎glutenallergy‬ ‪#‎cornallergy‬ ‪#‎peanutallergy‬ ‪#‎nutallergy‬ ‪#‎treenutallergy‬ ‪#‎soyallergy‬ ‪#‎wheatallergy‬ ‪#‎milkallergy‬ ‪#‎seedallergy‬ ‪#‎sesameallergy‬ ‪#‎allergy‬ ‪#‎allergic‬ ‬ ‪#‎lactoseintolerance‬

 

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Why in the world would you even want me to imagine that, when I cannot ever NOT have this allergy. MOST. Unproductive. Question. Ever.

10. You should go to *insert restaurant* sometime, they have the best *insert food*

@nichallenged How someone responses to your food allergy: You should go to *insert restaurant* sometime they have the best *insert food* #foodallergies #foodallergy #food #allergydiet #specialdiet ‪#‎nickelallergy‬ ‪#‎glutenallergy‬ ‪#‎cornallergy‬ ‪#‎peanutallergy‬ ‪#‎nutallergy‬ ‪#‎treenutallergy‬ ‪#‎soyallergy‬ ‪#‎wheatallergy‬ ‪#‎milkallergy‬ ‪#‎seedallergy‬ ‪#‎sesameallergy‬ ‪#‎allergy‬ ‪#‎allergic‬ ‬ ‪#‎lactoseintolerance‬

 

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It's been like a minute, how can you forget so fast?

In all, we love people who aren’t overcome with food allergies, but we do want them to speak to us with a bit of sensitivity. If there is anything I haven’t mentioned, be my guest, flood the comment box and show them who is boss.

Till next time, try to not get irritated, they don’t know any better. Just show them this post. 

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17 thoughts on “10 Curse Words not to Say to an Allergic Foodie

  1. Allison @ The Book Wheel

    People always have the best of intentions and yet they can be inadvertently rude. I’m one of them because I just found out our realtor is allergic to soy and I said, that sucks! Of course, we were just discussing my recent vegetarianism, which usually means more soy, so maybe it wasn’t SO bad 😉

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    1. Barbara Post author

      Yeah! I know and sometimes they cannot convey it in a empathetic way. Maybe it’s the counselor in me but when I do counsel I never judge the persons feeling towards something. I guess a substitute for “that sucks” would be “well it looks like you are handling it well.” I suggest never say “that sucks” until the person says it first. Cause it insinuates that everyone else’s life is not sucky but that persons. It might be true but why say it.

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  2. Alex

    I am afraid I am one of the people that is responsible for number 8 existing. I do have allergies against certain food types, but the majority of them is more of a mild intolerance where it takes large quantities for a reaction and with the other few I normally don’t run the risk of getting into shock, just irritating, sometimes somewhat painful reactions like totally blown up lips (think silicone injection gone wrong). Then there are some foods where the raw version is bad, but cooked I can take a hit or two. Speaking of cooking, I can’t cook carots because the steam rising makes me asthmatic. Yeah.

    And I agree, number 9 is pointless question. Why would I want to think myself into misery?

    Have a nice week!

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    1. Barbara Post author

      Oh No! My lips are always all sorts of chipped but I don’t think it is to the extent of yours. Wow! Can you eat carrots? and is it only the steam from carrots? Or other foods? Well we have asthma is common as well. Thanks for stopping by. 🙂

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  3. maryc

    What are some responses you would like to hear? People are usually trying to be helpful or empathetic but don’t know the right words to say.. Would be great to hear what responses are helpful to you 😉

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    1. Barbara Post author

      That’s a good question. That would make an excellent follow up post. First I would start with thinking if the responses would be okay to say to a cancer patient, not undermining cancer or trying to make it similar in anyway but food allergies are mostly life long and are deadly. In my book it can be considered a chronic illness, might be terminal to some. If you cannot say it to someone with cancer don’t say it at all. Also, just try talking in a “client centered way” not saying you are doing counseling (my inner Psychology geek is peeking out) but in a seriousness you have no business judging people’s reactions and feelings to things. If they never said “it sucks” there is no need too. You can say you seem to be handling it well. Also leave yourself out of it. Don’t think about what you would do, if you had a food allergy, cause that’s all imagination and everything you say after that thought will be considered rude because your imagination is only from your experience without a food allergy. I could go on but say tune. Thanks for the thought provoking questions. I don’t get many of those.

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